“No one wants to hear everything that’s in your head. They
just want you to live up to what comes out of your mouth,” shared one Adam
Grant, a New York Times writer.
When you and most of your friends are not on the same
location your chats always revolve around the question “what’s happening in
your life now?” and if the majority of them are girls then the question “you’re
still with Mr. X?” is what concludes the just beginning conversation. There’s
almost always everything to fuss about with the presence or absence of the
significant other.
With this is mind I realized that lately I’ve found myself
giving rehearsed answers to these two most frequently asked questions. Answers
revolving around
“I’m well kabisa!!!”
“Nothing new imagine..”
“It’s been same old you know..”
“Boyfie is good….this family of two is keeping on. We are
yet to kill each otherJ”
And to those I want to flatter I plus more non-sensical
statements. (Fortunate Magara don’t take offense…hehe)
But if I were to answer that question genuinely, a pinch of
my answers would have been:
“My level of indecision is worrying. I can’t quite decide
whether I should keep entertaining the thrill that comes with the Kenyan
elections or get seriously concerned about the alarming fear of an oncoming
violence brought about by self-centered leaders and a good number of
hooliganistic supporters.”
“Lately I’ve stepped into clubs less times than I thought I ever
would….OK more times that you’d think I would. I now know which wine I like…..how
to serve beer into a glass….how to dance to a few songs….and that shisha
actually smells like something that should be on the fresh juices menu despite
the health risks it presents."
“work…..well my boss
has grown strange…I can’t tell when he’s actually mad that my feet hardly land
on the floor when I’m sited or genuinely pissed that I came a second later than
my reporting time.”
“And then there’s this lady by the name Ciru Ngugi on
Facebook……” I do not wish to exhaust my lesbian quota yet…..but daammmnnn!!!!
Truth is if all of us were to genuinely speak what’s in our
mind the world would either stop revolving for a minute or revolve twice as
fast in that one minute….simply because heaven will have a reason to historically document
this for the generations to come.
The truth is somehow the cause of all that’s evil in this
world. Because when humans can’t handle the truth we resolve to do what suits
our weak selves.
Most humans don’t even have the capacity to handle it.
We feel condemned, betrayed, judged, misconstrued,
victimized, broken, wrecked (list down all the synonyms that soothes how the
truth makes you feel) by it.
We just don’t have the fiber for it. We can’t deal!
Winston Churchill once stated, “Men occasionally stumble
over the truth, but most of them pick themselves up and hurry off as if nothing
had happened.”
And you wonder why we still need grace to go through life
even after we’ve accepted Christ.
The truth is not for everyone…..it is for a few who choose
to live dependent not on fellow man, but trusting that there’s something bigger
than life that we patiently hope for.
Truth is for those who have the courage to face rejection.
Truth is for those who like Christ do not concentrate much
on how long they live, or how they’ll die, but on how to impact humanity till
eternity within three years of ministry.
Truth is for those who can forgive a cheating spouse….
Accommodate rapists….
Accept people’s unorthodox sexual conducts….
Dine with those who have robbed us of our loved ones….
Help those who have raided us….
Share a roof with those that have infected us….
Laugh with those that hold a different political view from
us….
Still love the all glammed up mama who farts in her sleep….
Still love the same man who disappoints you like this is all
he's created for…
Treasure the children that fail us…
Respect the parents that were better of absent….
Adore siblings who have left us shuttered…
Attend to employers that have wasted us…
For those who can forgive themselves for mistakes they live
regretting…
And so if you’re still in the category of “if you/I do this
I’m done with what we have” then truth ain’t for you.
A good friend once told me that the truth is absolute!!! It does
not vary to suit our circumstance or opinions.
It does not even have double standards. You can only be on
either side of the divide.
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| Photo credit S.B |
Well…when I examine myself….I’m still on the bridge towards
truth…
