It begins with all bubbles.
Love messages
At that point one almost believes that all heaven was
created for you.
I got drunk once and in that moment the world seemed like
the heaven the pastor preached about the Sunday before: this is how a moment in
love feels.
It’s all glamour until you have to escort your other human to
the airport till next time.
The wahalas of a long distance relationship are a pain none
can fathom.
Made worse by whether or not there’s a large water mass
separating you because that only means that the time difference will strain the
relationship further.
On some days you talk for a whole stretched 18 hours and on
other days the conversation only stretches as far as ‘Good mornings’.
Life thrives with so much activity but it’s never ultimately
fulfilling because your other human is not there to capture that memory with
you.
And therefore you keep on with life……making plans, building a
future around each other, updating each other on all the activities, moods,
joys, pains, the sense, the nonsense, all the family drama, all the Davids and
Delilahs that hover around like evil spirits out to devour the good children of
God...hehe
Months pass….you try to visit each other’s families, attend
each other's family events, because above and beyond the fact they are now part of your
enlarging family, you also desire to feel the presence of your other human
through them. Because somehow you can talk about your other human’s childhood,
likes, dislikes, with people who have loved this other human before you even
knew them.
Their friends visit the country and you know that deep down
you want to meet them more than they want to meet you because through them, this
other human feels closer.
You imagine that since they both were breathing the same air….that
somehow there was an exchange of oxygen and carbon dioxide and that through the
inhalation and exhalation a part of your other human was transported to you….(this
shows a lot of desperation….lol)
Months pass, and your anniversary comes, you celebrate it
with a phone call…maybe a Skype call.
Birthdays come, and you enjoy it but imagine how different
it would have been if your other human was here to leap through this new year with
you.
Anyway, what I am trying to say with many words is that long
distance relationships can suck the marrow out of your bones…yet; they are the
true test of love, trust and commitment. Though where there is love then trust
and commitment should be engulfed in it.
I miss you my other human :)
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| Musa, Judy, Omi at For You Chinese Restaurant on Valley Arcade, Nairobi (Photo credits: MDK) |
